Practical Magic Reimagined: Exploring Relationships Through a Systemic Lens
As the spooky season is upon us, there's nothing more comforting than a nostalgic rewatch of a true classic - Practical Magic. This movie holds a special place in my heart, bringing back memories of countless middle school sleepovers and moments when I could quote it in my sleep. "Watch out for your husbands, girls!" Anyone remember that line? Now, it's been a while since I allowed myself to be drawn back into the enchanting world of the Owens family house. Watching it through a relational and systemic lens this time, I began to see that there was magic beyond the spells and curses, and it exists within our relationships.
The movie's premise delves into how the Owens women have been historically isolated by their community because of their association with witchcraft, and they're fated to lose the loves of their lives due to a centuries-old curse that no man can endure. Each family member responds differently to their predetermined fates: some choose to run from it, embarking on journeys around the world with a series of flings (shoutout to Nicole Kidman's truly epic 90s aesthetic), while others, like Sandra Bullock's character, Sally, withdraw into an adorable apothecary to avoid the pain of rejection.
Though these responses seem to be at opposite ends of the spectrum, they are representative of how we often attempt to avoid the sting of grief and loss. It might seem like Gilly, played by Nicole Kidman, can escape the pain by avoiding meaningful relationships, or like Sally, who tries to conjure up the perfect partner who doesn't exist, thus avoiding the inevitable heartbreak. No one can blame Sally for holding out for someone who can flip pancakes in the air, but at what point does this curse become more of a self-fulfilling prophecy? Is this curse merely a story they've told themselves to avoid the heartbreak that might lead to their ultimate demise?
The real magic happens when Gilly's ex refuses to take the hint and continues to haunt her (relatable!). This compels the witchy sisters to embrace their authentic selves, not only to their community but also to one another and themselves. The power of connection is what saves the day and motivates the sisters to confront what they've been avoiding all along - the risk of further loss or rejection in the name of community and relationship.
There will always be pain and loss as our relationships shift and evolve, but there is also relational magic when we make decisions that better serve us, such as connecting with our loved ones and community or… relying on our coven. As Gilly says, “Magic isn’t just spells and potions, it’s the power to change what we want to change, what needs to be changed.” Practical Magic is the essence of connection, love, magic, and empowerment. So, go ahead and plant some lavender by your garden gate, use your phone tree, and observe the magic within our relationships where we can be our true (witchy) selves.
Blessings and magic abound,
Emily
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